Miracle Mondays: Lust Demons

Every Monday I’ve decided to share miracles i’ve witnessed and experienced on my

Pastor Jamil

journey. My purpose for doing this is to generate dialog concerning divine human potential & help others activate & recover the living memory of our Creator that resides within our DNA, in order to become more receptive to the infinite possibilities of who we’ve been and are becoming…

This particular share could probably be labeled prayer, intercession, or spiritual warfare as easily as it could be a miracle.

One of the periods of my life I enjoyed the most was the time period in college when I worked at a local book store chain. I met a lot of great people, made some long time friends, and I was able to read and get my hands on almost any type of books that I wanted. As a self proclaimed nerd, this was pretty close to heaven for me Lol!

One day a co-worker of mine who was in a very loving and committed relationship came to me with a unique problem. For the life of me, I still can’t understand till this day why she chose to come to me in particular about this problem. She pulled me to the side and spoke very quietly with a half silly half embarrassed grin on her face. She divulged that she had been suffering from uncontrollable bouts of lust towards a male co-worker whom we both worked with. She was a Wiccan priestess, and thus not unfamiliar with the idea of spiritual forces, and was led to believe that I might be able to help her. When she described how this issue was affecting her, I knew it had to be bad to move her to share this with me. She felt terrible about her lustful, being in a very healthy relationship with her current boyfriend who I would see often come and pick her up faithfully like it was his only job in life Lol! I had noted how awkward she had been around the the guy in the store with whom she said she was struggling with such intense urges over, but never looked to much into it. Now I knew. I felt she was being sincere, and so I told her to give me 3 days, and I’d do what I could.


I decided to go on a 3 day fast from food to see if I could get some insight into what she was going through, but what happened next I could have never imagined. The first night of the first day I had begun fasting would be anything but routine. That night just before I went to sleep I found myself lying n bed next to naked woman in a state between sleep and wake. Though I was in that state, I was fully conscious and aware of the details of what was transpiring. The woman was beautiful, and of Persian descent. Though she appeared to be in her twenties, I could sense she was very ancient. But, what I remember most was that lust oozed out of every pore of her body.

She propositioned me very convincingly, to engage in intercourse with her. She even reasoned with me how it would be harmless due to the fact that we were both in a semi-dream state. Everything she was saying made sense, but the more she spoke the more I felt something very masculine masquerading behind a very feminine voice and appearance, so I pulled my will power together and refused. The 2nd night She would appear again in the same manner, only her attempts at persuading me were more sensual, provocative, and forth right. I remember her offering me an experience that no mortal woman could ever offer, which I may never know whether true or not Lol! These exchanges on both night occasions seemed to last between 3-5 min. Both of which I was able to muster the will power to refuse, which wasn’t easy(even upon my perception that she wasn’t a legit woman rather a succubus of some sort).

On the third day I was scheduled to go back in to work. I hadn’t even connected the nocturnal vision experiences to anything just yet, but that early after the co-worker who

Image of an Imposter Dark Being posing as a Being of Light.

sought out me help came to me excited smiling saying “I don’t know what you did, but what ever I was dealing with is completely gone”. She couldn’t believe it and thanked me again. It would take me a few hours to recognize the possibility of there being a connection between her request for help with her lust issue and the mysterious visitation of the entity in my bed the past two nights. he never mentioned having a similar issue after that, and we never discussed it again. That wouldn’t be the last time I’d encounter, but it was definitely an experience that opened me up to the reality/existence of laws, intelligence’s, and forces that are not cataloged in western academic books Lol!

Take Aways:

-There was a term for a type of prayer called Intercessory prayer, which when you looked a bit deeper into the meaning, actually deals with someone placing them self as a target in the issue and the life of another as a buffer. I realized that being willing to help someone genuinely goes a long way in the spirit world. The intensity of this whole encounter would also lead me to understand the importance of the concept of spiritual hygiene/protection and the need to keep one’s vibrational level high and strong through various techniques such as prayer, mediation, solar practices, and spiritual talisman/tools. I also learned to be careful & discerning about who I helped and what I was helping with. I was humbled, and reminded that I didn’t know everything/anything.

-This experience also taught me that there was a lot out here in the spiritual ecology of universe, that was not to be taken lightly. It taught me that you must be led by the authentic divine authority of Messiah’s spirit & your heart has to be right as well when approaching darkness. Also, academic intelligence and libraries of information stored in the brain aren’t always applicable to many situations. There was a higher part of me guiding and feeding me innerformation about the “succubus entity” during our two night discourse. If I had not been in service to someone else & my heart had not been right, I would not have recognized that this beings only had power if it was willingly given to her/him/it. By me taking on this energy and not giving it power, it’s power to affect the life of my co-worker was terminated.

What about you, have you or anyone you know ever had any experiences, struggles, or battles with attaching spirits, shadow beings, demons, succubi/incubi, or other paranormal phenomena? Have you or anyone you known been victorious over such entities? If So, please share. I have often been contacted by a great deal of people, many of which have been afraid or ashamed that they’ve seen or been plagued by such things, for which I sahre these things are not as uncommon as they or others would like for us to believe….

Miracle Mondays

Every Monday I’m going to challenge the world sanctioned perception of what is normal & possible by sharing miracles ive witnessed and experienced in my journey. My purpose for doing this is to generate dialog concerning divine human potential & help activate the memory of our Creator that resides within our DNA, in order to become more receptive to who we truly are…


(In order to protect Privacy, I willwithhold the names of the individuals involved in this share)

So, Here goes another miraculous event from my life that I wanted to share on this Miracle Monday!


For nearly 6months after my awakening vision, I had been having visions, miracles, and mystical experiences occur on a fairly regular basis. They had all been occurrence that some might have just dismissed or said were manifestations of shear random dumb luck.  Although, I was having these experiences and was beginning to develop a following of those who sought truth and resonated with the message of the vision I had, I felt deep down that I needed a teacher. Also, I knew that what ever had been deposited in me by the Creator had not yet been tested/challenged.

I had been visiting every kind of church a person could imagine. I found many of them with great people and long lasting relationships, but not the deeper revelation my soul was seeking. Till one day, my cousin told me he knew of a preacher who he thought would be exactly what I was looking for. A group of us decided to attend the service that coming Saturday.


Something immediately struck me as different about this preacher upon first impression.  After he said a phrase about how there were two wells of water described by the patriarchs in the bible “one being of traditional religion and the other being spiritual life”, something leaped within me & I knew I would be connected to him for some time. Though it was the first time we had ever met, he spoke into my life describing things about my past no man could have known, as well as what he saw of my future. It was amazing, I had never seen anything like that. It was as though a scroll had been unfolded above my head that he could see and read as clearly as people read menus at a restaurant. He seemed to have some deeper insight into who I was than I did of myself.

On the second or third time I visited his church, something very unexpected would take place after the services. I remember this couple who lived very close to where I grew up with my father, brought their teen son up to the Pastor to be examined. He had been suffering with pain from a skin rash for weeks. They didn’t know what it was or were it came from, but I could tell the boy was in serious pain. Their family doctor had not been able to diagnose the rash or the pain he was in.  After Pastor Examined him, he signaled me with a glance and told the parent to bring their son to me so that I could lay hands on him while he prayed for him. In my head I was like, are you talking to me Lol!? Now up till this point, I had just been observing this whole scenario, to see how he would deal with it. I had no personal desire to take part in what was going on at all Lol! I had never been called on to be a part of something like this before. I was scared, and was concerned that what the boy had might have been contagious. I thought pastor meant to send the child to someone else. I didn’t feel ready at all, or that I had what was needed within to impact this child’s life. All these thoughts passed through my mind.

Everything was moving so fast, so I had to make a decision quick. All of it hinged on trust. miracle-mondays-1Did I trust myself. If I trusted myself, then I could honor the higher order series of events and signs that led me to this teacher, who seemed to see something in me that I was yet aware of. So I chose to go with the flow, and trust his words in the moment. He walked up right in front of me, and the compassion within guided me to place both my right and left hand on the area of his skin were he was experiencing the most pain, which was between his neck and shoulders. As the Pastor said a short prayer, a warm energy which I would become familiar with over the years began to vibrate in my hands. After the prayer, I removed my hands and pastor asked the young man whether he was in pain. He said no, and I could see that he was no longer moving in the same discomforting manner as before. The next Saturday the young man came in and all of his pain and the rashes were completely gone, I had never been a part of something like that before.


2 Take Aways

1st) The Spirit or Intelligence of Miracles swarms around particular individuals that it chooses. If you’re around people who miracles magnetize themselves to, then you’ll see them as well. I would learn in time that this particular pastor who became my spiritual father, was a powerful magnet for the reality and expression of miracles. He was the first person to model true wisdom, the depths of the scriptures, and the spiritual power that comes from someone having their consciousness fused with that of the divine. Years spent with him, helped me learned what it was to regularly be around miracles and the mind and heart required to be a vessel for them.

2nd) Trust is not something you gain from things, places, and people proving they’re reliable. Trust Comes from within. Its about the way you decide to establish your beliefs and values based on your experiences. You don’t always need to have a lot of experiences, to establish your sense of trust. Sometimes, it’s really about training your instincts and intuition along with the uplifting core beliefs you already have to surrender to the moment. Especially encounters with the unknown, where miracles love to congregate.

When Pastor signaled me, I had no experience or sense of preparation concerning the situation, but I knew and felt enough within to trust myself enough to submit the insight(inner vision) he had in that particular instance and step into the uncomfortable nature of not knowing what would happen next. When I surrendered to the moment there was spiritual intelligence just waiting to meet me that rose from within to guide me in my part of this joint work miraculous healing.

Know when to slow yourself down, so that you can really see & feel the space that you’re in when you’re about to move into an uncomfortable opportunity.  Trust yourself, You’ll Know who to Trust, and whom Has trust in You…

Miracle Mondays

Do you believe in miracles? Have you ever experienced a miracle, or something amazing that you couldn’t explain? Many Cultures around the world for ages have recorded testimony and sacred oral traditions about a wide range of powerful divine occurrences and miracles worked through the hands of great Yogis, Shamans, Priest, and Holy men.   Growing up I would hear preachers speak on different scriptures that spoke of the miraculous such as John 14:12 “Timeless truth, I tell you: ‘whoever believes in me, those works which I have done he will also do, and he will do greater works than these, because I am going to the presence of my Father.'” I wanted to know if miracles still happened, was there a science to it, and whether there were people or miraculous communities fulfilling this scripture, and if so where were they hiding lol!

When I was 18yrs old, I was introduced to the world and language of miracles by a very mystical visionary experience with the Creator where my soul was taken out of my body and brought into the sun. Following this experience, I began to walk into a whole new world in terms of the language of  miracles. I say language b/c after a period of time of experiencing a range of unexplained miracles, I realized that there was something always being communicated by way of certain patterns to the occurrences. I believe miracles are perpetually occurring, and that it is every persons right to be able to experience them on occasion. I believe that the reason we don’t recognize them more often is for a few reasons. First, when you research the history of the miraculous, you tend to find that it is an intelligent energy & life force that swarms around particular individuals and groups of it’s choosing. So sometimes, if you’re not around those particular individuals or groups you might not be in an atmosphere were miracles are abundant. The second thing you learn is that there individuals and groups who benefit from the masses having certain levels of spiritual blindness and therefore place a great deal of effort, financial resources, and media conditioning into limiting our perception of who we are as spiritual beings, what’s socially acceptable, and what’s real causing us to discount much of what we might experience in the realm of the super natural(occurrences of miracles threaten this). Third, I believe the language and expression of miracles are perpetually occurring on a frequency pitch we’ve been trained to drown out with doubting minds and closed hearts. Kinda like a radio station that on the end of the dial we never explore out of habit.  For years I kept much of what I witnessed to myself, but now feel the time is right to share my experiences and what I have learned about the language of miracles.

For years, especially the first couple of years that I was experiencing miracles, I didn’t miracle-mondays-3know what to think or believe? I was only 18yrs old or so at the time, initially with no one to bounce my experiences off of. No one around me seem to have been experiencing the same things. I wondered if I wasn’t loosing it a bit sometimes? I knew people might think I was nuts lol! For that reason, I kept most of those experiences to myself until the right time. Now it’s time for me at least, and with the proliferation/advances in the fields of science such as quantum physics(which have opened minds to greater realities and possibilities), and the spiritual awakening that is occurring across the world which has people intimately into a wide array of unexplained phenomena, I want to share what I’ve been through in order to help others recognize and embrace the language miracles as well for themselves.

So, on every Monday I’m going to share whether it’s through this Blog, Vlog, or audio recording either a miraculous event that was primarily worked through me, on my behalf, or through collective group effort.

First lets define a “Miracle”(in this case the focus being Divine Miracles) according to Webster:


  1. 1 : an extraordinary event manifesting divine intervention in human affairs
  2. 2 : an extremely outstanding or unusual event, thing, or accomplishment
  3. 3 Christian Science : a divinely natural phenomenon experienced humanly as the fulfillment of spiritual law

For me a miracle is an intelligently communicated intervention whether spontaneous healing, warping/suspension of the laws of nature, or divine manifestation from a advanced being or higher consciousness using established( though not always immediately understood) spiritual  laws. I believe that when miracles occur we’re looking at a form of communion between us and our higher selves/worlds for the purpose of helping us to expand our way of seeing the world and evolving our capacity to love. For instance, recently I was getting ready to go to work and upon walking outside saw an earth worm stuck on the sidewalk fighting for it’s life. It had veered off too far from the soil, and could not find it’s way back without intervention. See it’s struggle, I decided to lean down, pick up the earth worm, and place it back into the soil where it belonged. Now to the earth worm, I would seem like an advanced or divine being, but for in truth the worm got my attention and I was able to empower it b/c I have a different perspective and capacity to effect it’s world. That being said, let me also say that I do not believe that miracles just randomly happen.  Using the scriptures as a blue print of ancient wisdom codes, I find that in every example of a unexplained divine benevolent event you find a miracle being worked through someone. Miracles are communicated through vessels, often through people like you and me! They cannot exist without an observer and thus require a conduit for expression. Think about that???

One of the first miracles that I want to share occurred shortly after the out of body experience I wrote about above. My whole being was on fire from the revelation of the vision. I felt compelled to reach out to as many lay people, leaders, and ministers as possible to share the vision I received of a redemptive spiritual movement that would help free the world of denominations, divisions, and religious exclusivity. I was young and didn’t really know much of anything, but I followed my heart as though there was no other form of guidance in heaven or earth.

On this one particular day, I had set an appointment to meet a minister at his office on Benedict College  Campus at 4pm. For some reason that day, an almost uncontrollable urge to take a nap came over me around about the 2pm or so. I figured I take a brief nap and get up around 3pm to leave as I was staying at my mothers house at the time, which was generally about 30-40min away from were I was headed. When I woke up however, it was 3:40pm to my dismay. leaving me roughly 15min to get there. I took my appointments very seriously and took a second to decide whether to just reschedule or try and make it late? A voice spoke to me intuitively saying “take the trip, see what happens”. So, I took a deep breath, relaxed, and hopped into my trusty old 98 Honda accord Lol! I left the house in the car at 3:45pm, and based on the distance and estimated time figured, I’d get there around about 4:20 or later. This was before cell phone’s were common, so I left and didn’t even leave a msg for this minister to expect to be running quite a bit late. I deliberately chose not to rush or speed. I felt that if the voice told me to see what happens, then I should relax. Driving normally, I pulled up the college campus around about 3:56pm. I hadn’t even been watching the clock in my car during the trip there. To be honest I was a bit disturbed, thinking that the clocks at home and in my car must have been off. I asked a couple of student what time their watches had and it all lined up.

(Later, I tested the amount of time it would take to travel that same distance late at night around about 2am to calculate how fast I could make it. On two occasions driving as fast as speed limit would allow, I made the trip from the distance of the college campus to my mothers house in in about 33min each time.)

When I got the entrance of the campus, a security guard stopped me saying that no one Placeholder Imagewas allowed on campus who was not a student. There had recently been a killing on campus. I told him that I had a previously arranged appointment, but gave no details further than that. He was adamant about no one entering. Just when I was about to turn around and go back home, to homosexual males walked by and in passing told the security guard that I  specifically had a meeting with the minister of the campus chapel. I can’t make this up.  They never stopped walking, and I never saw them again. The guard just let me through, as though he had been given presidential orders that he had no authority to challenge. That meeting that day, led to me making some really appointed relationships that would help me in the following years to come. The dramatic way that things unfolded with the time bending and the two guys who persuaded the guard to let me in as though already positioned and informed of where I was going never ever left me.

Two take always:

1st) That voice that speaks softly but very clearly to us, is not just a figment of our imagination. I think that still silent voice that we all posses is an echo that is spoken from our spirit(higher/future self) that reverberates back to us in the present. Constantly seeking to guide us when were willing to surrender the fortress of our rationale. Learning to turn down the volume of mental static in our consciousness and increase our responsibility(Response-ability) to that voice is a major key to improving our fluency in the language of miracles.

2nd) Though I was about 18yrs old at the time, I had never had any conscious or deliberate interaction with someone or individuals who were gay. Not from avoidance or choice, rather lack of exposure and therefore opportunity. Matter of fact, I never really even paid too much attention to the subject up to this point, other than childish locker room jokes and such. So in this instance, I learned a very powerful lesson in the language of miracles, and that is to be “Open”.  Never limit how divine plans might unfold with superficial or societal prejudices. Our biases, prejudices, and condemnatory judgments, are the product of social conditioning and are but mere flakes of dust in the grander ecosystem of our interconnected reality.


So this is my first share, but I would love to hear from you. Have you ever had a mysterious or miraculous experience involving the bending of the laws of time. Or ever had something amazing or miraculous happen that came from an unexpected source or person? If so let me know?

Pastor Jamil

The In Too Me See & Communication of the “Wilderness”

The root of the Hebrew word for Wilderness “Dabar” symbolically means “to speak or communicate from the soul”. The Wilderness that the prophets, priest, and kings of the scriptures go through in truth is not a geographical location, rather it’s a place of power and clarity within which is reached through an initially uncomfortable journey to awaken and become intimate with the unique expression of ones soul. As this wilderness is traverse, powerful discoveries are made as one begins to hear and eventually becomes one with their inner voice emanating from the fiery bush of their Divine Selves through their regular adherence to It. This is where Intimacy begins, with the discovery of ones true voice. A process that requires us to become familiar with our own fears and insecurities, to such a degree that they can no longer be used against us by others or ourselves like before. As we learn how to speak from this place more fluidly, we learn how to bypass the superficial and temperamental behavior of our mates and communicate from our true selves to the g-d in theirs. We also become more fluent in the language of creation. Prior to Moses Journey into the wilderness of himself, he had an identity, responsibilities, and relationships, but was spiritually mute before creation. This is how ineffective we are in communication with each other before we access our true voice…

Having a healthy and strong relationship with your self is Essential to having great 1104131304relationships with people around you. This relationship, looks like an ever evolving sense of worthiness, and expanding awareness of ones own multidimensional being.  It’s the primary relationship that matters. Lovers and married couples often receive cliché advice on the importance of communication. However the missing ingredient to that advice is the truth that in the case of an individual or a couple not knowing themselves, communication is impossible as neither can share themselves or convince the other of who they are due to lack of their own knowledge in this area. The truth is that we can talk with and at each other for days while saying very little. So let me share why you might be so frustrated in your communication. The reason is that this type of communication always becomes stagnate. Your fear of saying what you truly feel, and or your fear of not saying hurtful things in order to be heard comes from insecurity with your own voice and convictions. Both of these ingredients when mixed in to a couples communication create more scars than bonds.  It’s so much easier to blame and distract ourselves with the faults of others than to deal with ourselves. Most of the strong emotions of disappointment and anger that comes from couple’s improper communication, is merely dissatisfaction with their own undiscovered self and inability to fulfill themselves projected onto another. Learning to love yourself more deeply and constantly discovering who you are and what you have to express is hard work, but sexy! We have the ironic ability to talk much while saying very little when we don’t know who we are.

IN THE MOMENTTheirs is tremendous value in each of us investing in consistent creation of space and time for us to spend with ourselves. Time to journey through the initial discomfort of going within through our unresolved issues and undiscovered value to find our promised land within were clarity of our authentic selves expression is abounding. There are pockets of miracles hidden on the path through the wilderness of ourselves waiting to be unlock as we pass through the treasure box of ourselves. Jewels that we can share and build empowering relationships with. Healthy communication comes from the power released when someone develops a strong and intimate relationship with themselves and learns to speak from their heart and soul confidently.  When a person knows themselves, they love themselves, and when they love themselves, they trust themselves, and when they trust themselves, they share themselves through open, honest, and clear communication without fear from their heart and soul with those around them. The universe is a mirror confirming everything we believe and it doesn’t give us what we want but what we feel. So speaking from the soul really turns the universe on…


Goliath & Our Hidden Power

photo-6The scriptures were written by a lineage of individuals who had made contact with their extra-dimensional selves. They learned to live in the spiritual world and the physical world simultaneously experiencing and sensing both as one. In writing the bible they infused deep spiritual codes about infinite realities inside our souls into the stories. Behind the stories, within the words there exist deep spiritual truths about the power inside of each of us. The bible is History (His Story the Creator) of  Mysteries (My Stories & your story) about our true nature as spiritual beings. The Story of David and Goliath is one of those stories that contains deep and powerful truths in relation to our lives and how fear is related our evolution.


Recently while doing a word study, I was lead to look up the meaning of the word Goliath. I was amazed to find that the word meant “splendor” and “that which is uncovered or revealed”. My spirit instantly resonated with this though my mind had not yet caught up to its meaning yet. Splendor is always a word that has positive connotations, so this was interesting. While pondering this, I decided to look up the meaning for Philistine, which is the tribe that Goliath was a part of in which Israel was about to engage in battle.  The word Philistine meant “immigrant”. Seeing this, it all clicked. The Philistines represented the deep insecurities, fears, and anxieties that immigrate illegally into our minds and soul often without our noticing. They travel into our minds through our experiences and interactions with others disguised as the opinions and beliefs of others, hiding as our own. It is only when we come into circumstances of great challenge that these immigrant fears and crippling insecurities, who in our avoidance have  grown in mass are uncovered and revealed. This is  our Goliath the champion of those fears (1Samuel 17:4) manifest, in the moment of our greatest obstacles.

This is where the other greater part of us comes into play with David. His name 1009means “Beloved”. In the book of Samuel he is described as the youngest son of his Father’s children. Yet he as the youngest and smallest of them has over taken both bears and lions protecting his Father’s sheep. David is the part of us that basque in the awareness of being the Beloved of the universe. The part of us that always exist and remains certain of our connection to the Creator, possessing the power to bend and transform our reality. If the Goliath in us is the frequency of deep insecurity, fear, and paralyzation, then David is the frequency of Love’s power in manifestation. We must starve the Goliath frequency and feed the David frequency in our times of fear.

Goliath is the gateway to manifesting the higher and greater dimensions  of our dreams and desires. The gateway to our future growth,  purpose, and ultimate happiness. There is beautiful splendor and majestic light hidden in our fears if when we unlock them by confronting them correctly. David is our spiritual will to confront our giants face on with certainty in spite of our fears. 1Samuel 17 illustrates David (our spiritual will) as running towards Goliath (manifest fears). We are a society that is very avoidant of uncomfortable emotions and feelings such as fear. But the David in us is different, it desires to run towards those inner demons manifest in our life powered by the light of our being. Fear is a star gate to our Christ-hood. We can always choose to follow our spirit in the Davidic direction of fear confrontation. This is the path to opening the gateway to our destiny. David took a stone out of his bag, and shot it into Goliath’s head (representing the power source of our fears). The stone David used was a reality that he pulled from the spiritual realms out of his mind (the bag) and shot as a thought into fear (Goliath), establishing his destiny. Our path is the same, we have access to draw the same strength from heaven into our hearts and mind and project and inject them into the authority and power of our fears transforming them into opportunities…





4 Basic Things Women on the Spiritual Path Should Look for in Men

I have been a relationship counselor and Soul Mate Coach for a number of years now. Having gone through various phases from a very traditional religious background, to the black conscious community, to the New age & Meta-physical communities, to what I would call now the personal responsibility and evolution community.  Having gone through different phases I have been witness to the rise and fall of relationships in all of them, and noted particular pitfalls, insights, and wisdom patterns that I wanted to share today with women in particular who are on the path of personal growth and transformation that is often not shared to help along the way. Why, because women are the planets greatest resources, and there are not many women on the challenging path of personal transformation & enlightenment(not many people period!). So I wanted to share a few basic insights that I felt may bless some who could benefit from it.
1CONNECTED) He Should Definitely Show you He’s clearly Interested:
This is a key factor for all women when considering their interest in a potential mate. If he is interested he will make this interests known to you in such a way as there should be no questions in your mind as to how he feels. When he does so, and the measure to which he does will let you know to things. 1st) That he is clearly attracted to you in the way that matters 2nd) That he feels he is ready to be in a relationship. These are very important factors because if one of those elements is not present then there will be no foundation to build on. If a man is attracted to you but doesn’t feel like he’s at a point where he’s ready to sustain a relationship then it’s no bueno. If he’s ready, but isn’t attracted to you in that way, make sure you respect yourself and refrain from pressing him for more, it’s no bueno. When both readiness and attraction are present for a man, he will reveal it to you allowing you clear space to determine the pace of how things will move from there…
2) Character over Appearances:
Character is the true Divine Currency of the universe, though media would have us believe otherwise. Is he driven, honest, respectful, does he keep his word, how do others respond to his presence? Why is this important? Because looks can be deceiving. There are well dressed highly articulate slimy parasitic wolves in all organizations and groups whether traditional church, conscious community, self help or New age groups, who learn how to appear and what to say in order to play on women’s desires. Just because they wear the suit to church, say Hotep Queen at the incense shop, or where nice crystals and white flowing robes at the meditation gatherings, doesn’t necessary mean they’re mature or have the capability to treat you properly. However “Balance” cannot be faked forever, and man’s value will always be his Integrity. Without which, all that he may appear to have(including you if you allow) will always be vulnerable to the chaos of his undeveloped personality & being.
What will learning this do for you? Well a few things. It will help understand the power or lack there of that character affords a man in how deals with disappointment, and moves through stressful obstacles which are important things for all women to understand about any man they’re considering being close to. It will also help you understand which of the two groups he exists within that men can be categorized into when a woman is searching for something long term.  You can more easily determine whether He is the man searching for marriage material or whether He is the man searching for fun=sex only. Neither is good or bad, but when a man’s character is better known then so too are his intentions. It takes time and objective observance sometimes for the nature of ones qualities to become clear, so patience will be one of your greatest allies in allowing him to create a record history with you. Your intuition also will be one of your greatest means of gaining insight into the quality of a man’s character, Don’t make excuses for it…
3) Has Vision & Willing to Share it with You:
If a man shows you clearly that he is interested, and you determine that his character is photo-6acceptable & to your liking then the next step is learning whether or not he has vision(sense of unique personal direction). Too often we’re conditioned to perceive and seek out relationships as business or pleasure acquisitions, as opposed to “Vision” acquisitions. Proverbs 29:18 says “Where there is no “Vision”, the People Perish”. This tells us that a sense of inward direction is a vital divine form of nourishment that sustains our well being, and this is so key to relationships. Many relationships die though some go on in a dead state, due to a lack of “Vision”. If he does have a “Vision” and he shares this with you having the previous two characteristics in place, this is a good thing as a man’s vision is sacred to him. This also prevents you from being relegated to being the “Poison Remover” which can be an unfullfilling long term condition. What is the poison remover you might ask?
The poison remover is the right women at the wrong phase in a man’s life. You might be intelligent, a great nurturer, physically attractive, and have any number of other great qualities but find that it’s not enough for the man of your interests to envision you in his future. Why, often because he’s been hurt by  a woman who he really cared about and gave his all to. And as a result of that unresolved pain he’s not yet ready to see a woman in a long term relationship. However, he will often settle and be with a woman who is loyal, and has other qualities which allow him to feel safe as though she will not hurt him. She is the “poison remover”. He will move in with the poison remover, he will sleep with the poison remover, he will even be faithful in some cases with the poison remover, but he will not share his vision nor make long term commitments that reveal his strategic plan which involves you being with him in the future. If he does share his vision with you and his plans that involve both you and he in the long term future the other important thing to observe is his actions towards manifesting his vision. Is he consistent, does he keep his word, does his spiritual swagger reveal his confidence in his Vision? If so then this is very good. Remember, he may not have already arrived or have everything that will come along with the ripened fruit of his vision but neither did the prophets, priest, and kings of the scriptures who the Creator revealed their destiny to through vision. All seeds take time to realize their full potential.
4) Who He Surrounds Himself With?
A wise saying I always used to hear is “You can tell a man’s future by the company they keep”. That’s Powerful, just think about that. Observe the company the man you’re interested in keeps. It will help you truly see what phase of their life and consciousness they’re in. Are they still hanging with people who do the same things they did in college or high school. Are they keeping the company of individuals who are more negatively or positively oriented. Are they experiencing the same old repetition of circumstances or fresh & new things? If you simply observe the company the man you’re interested in, and see what type of effect they have on him you will gain a lot of insight into where he wishes to be, and how ready he is to get there. The company a man chooses serve as a mirror to his subconscious self view and he values about himself.  It’s his internal covenant with how he’s preparing to manifest himself into the future through his now…
Now of course there are many other key points and traits that women on the path of personal transformation & enlightenment should look for but these are great to start off with. I have a video down below pointing out some practical tools and ways in which a sincere women on the path can better move through the process of being open to the process of finding a balanced mate. If you feel that this article can bless someone else please repost and share it with them…